Sabrina Amell

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A Recovering Perfectionist

Hi, I’m Sabrina and I am a perfectionist.

Everything in its place, everything just so, no last minute and unresearched plans, nothing unexpected and everyone impressed with my attention to detail. What a wretched life it was sometimes- I lived with the entire world on my shoulders including all the stress associated with it. And it has taken years for me to work out better ways to do things that don’t add more on my plate than what is rightfully mine.

Things to remember:

I am NOT PERFECT nor will I ever be.

Learn to be realistic in your expectations of yourself and others.

I make LOTS of mistakes that I eventually have to fix later.

Not everyone likes me and I have to be ok with that.

I am not a robot or a machine.

No is a perfectly acceptable answer.

Boundaries are a healthy thing to have in your life.

Sometimes, I need to lower my standards AND my give-a-shit level.

It is impossible to please EVERYONE; and especially not to try to do so as it will inevitably sacrifice my peace.

My best sometimes is just ordering the damn pizza after a long day.

All these little “reminders” help me with pretty much any decision I must face in the course of my day. It’s also a good thing to be held accountable by a friend, spouse or family member, which I have. Sometimes that means just bouncing my thoughts off them or even just venting to someone I fully trust.

That’s not admitting defeat or that you are not as perfect as you would like everyone to think you are, that’s becoming strong through learning through your struggles WHICH IS NORMAL. Plus, remember YOU AREN”T PERFECT ANYWAY. It also helps you practice self-love and respecting yourself, your time and your energy.

I’ve always resented feeling like I was the ONLY one who can do a certain thing in a specific way for it to be done RIGHT. I mean, is it REALLY that important? Who is the Judge anyway???